Who they are: men and women who date with reckless abandon but never seem to make it past date 1 or 2, and have been single for way longer than what is considered reasonable.

Why they’re single: believe they possess a higher power that allows them to look deep into the future and see if a person would “work out” or not. It’s little surprise that the crystal ball rarely (if ever) shows anyone who is perfectly compatible, causing these DD’s to dismiss anyone who doesn’t instantly sweep them off their feet – which is to say, everyone. Since they apparently know exactly what they want, the Dismiss-u-lator believes him/herself to be highly self-aware, but like most who claim that mindset, they are actually self-deceived. Fa!

Advantages: has the last laugh when the first round of divorces take place; represents the other side in the grass-is-always-greener scenario to coupled-up friends; saves money.

Disadvantages: dismissive tenancies form into habit, and as the years roll on they find themselves in a precarious spot: looks fading but still extremely picky. Unfortunately this is mile 5 on the long highway of eternal singledom.

What they can do: it’s not that you have to ‘settle‘; rather, just have a more realistic view of yourself. Get down from the pedestal of self-self books that tell you how great and amazing and god-like you are, and how you ‘deserve’ no one less than Bradley Cooper – like Clint Eastwood said in Unforgiven, “deserve’s got nothin to with it.” You’re far from the best thing since packaged salami slices, so take the blinders off and start working with what you got. There’s a sweet spot between holding out for something that isn’t there, on one end, and going for the first loser that buys you $5.00 flowers from the bodega, on the other. You’re skewing towards the former way too much, and risking losing all your chips. Know when to fold ‘em.

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