Miss Lonelyhearts
Are you loving like a Darma or a Greg?
There is an important lesson to be learned from Darma & Greg. If you’re not familiar with the late 90’s TV show, or need a refresher course, the half-hour sitcom was about the marriage of a liberal, yoga-practicing, health-nut hippie (Darma) and a conservative, practical, follow-the-rules lawyer (Greg). Of course drama ensues when Darma and Greg’s different approaches to illness, home decorating, and camping conflict – Darma’s cure for a cold involves herbs and old world mysticism while Greg employs Sudafed and a trained healthcare professional.
All my life, I’ve dated Gregs (cranky intellectuals who need a laugh and my impulsive behavior as a sidekick on the dirt road to F-U-N) – until last year, when I dated Ben.
Ben was living on his own planet, where people only cared about organic vegetable gardening and hiking with friends, where wine flowed like water, where traveling was church and where girlfriends were a burden. There were no rules in Ben’s world and I eagerly stepped in, ready for vacation.
But being around a through and through…
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Overlooked pick-up spots: The Airport
In this series, the hilarious /insightful Beth Alice Cook exposes overlooked locales for meeting your soul mate 4 eva. – .ed
If you are not trying to meet potential mates at the airport, you are missing out. Here are 5 reasons why airports are S-E-X-Y and what you can be doing to maximize your chances at travel romance.
1. Uniformed officers, strict procedures, rules/regulations, and foreign machinery set the scene: S&M for the Masses. You check your agency when you check your bag. From then on, you are at the whim of those in control. Enjoy it! (When else can you just leave things completely up to other people?)
2. Now it’s time for I Spy at Security. You are playing the game and are also part of the game. People everywhere are undressing in pre-coital fashion, removing shoes, jackets, jewelry and the like. Everyone is checking everyone out, while TSA officers peep personal belongings with electromagnetic x-ray waves. Voyeurism is H-O-T-T. Go to the line with the cutest people and keep an eye out…
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How to organize people you’re seeing? It’s all in the name
When you first start spending time with someone, you should not use their real name with others. When referring to your date / lover with friends, family and co-workers, come up with a temporary pseudonym. This way, you won’t get prematurely attached – plus you can date someone with that same name in the future without a reminder of the past.
There are a few things that can inspire a moniker for widespread use (until they disappear, you drop them, or they become an actual girlfriend / boyfriend worthy of a real name). The trick really is just to pick something about the person that strikes you on the first, second or third date.
* Occupation - this works well if they have an unusual job
examples: Wine guy; Tech girl; Dancing man; Guitar dude; Hot dentist
* Hometown / state / country – this can work for anyone
examples: Indian dude; Japanese chick; Boston; Italian guy; California
* Behavior – can be assigned after a few dates
examples: Miss…
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